Ever felt like someone was using you for your image?
Like you were just "arm candy" like a girl described on tik-tok. You were just for show for your looks.
Or you knew someone was using you for your status, your money, or to get closer to their career goals.
Believe it or not this is a very painful experience and something I have dealt with. This person doesn't love you, they love your benefits.
You feel like a 401K plan instead of a person.
They don't care about you, they just want to experience you like you're an excursion.
Celebrities are not the only people who experience this, everyday regular people do as well.
Maybe you knew you were being used and didn't care or you didn't know and was completely shocked when you found out.
Maybe in the beginning they were VERY nice to the point where it was uncomfortable. They sucked up to you in a way that you couldn't explain. They may have brought you amazing gifts and embraced you to the world. They put you on a high pedestal.
And the minute they got what they want or when you say no to something they need, you notice a sudden shift. Maybe it's small or big.
No matter how small or big the shift, you can sense their disingenuous spirit. They just needed you to look and feel good.
I learned that when a person doesn't enter a relationship for the right reasons, the relationship will always feel wrong. Once they get what they need from you, you'll feel discarded. Some people don't just cut you lose physically but you can tell through their actions, demeanor, and mannerisms that they're no longer invested in the relationship.
Or maybe you're a person who uses people for their image. The bad boy with the edge makes you feel important. Being with him makes you feel validated. Or you purposely cling onto people who you know would benefit your status or career.
Can I ask you a question?
How is that working out for you?
Because if you have to cling on someone else for clout you're admitting consciously or subconsciously, that you don't think you're great on your own. So of course you seek out people who will make you look great standing next to them only to find out that you end up feeling more worthless. Why? You entered the relationship for the wrong reason.
Ladies and gentlemen I introduce to you toxic relationships 101.
Have you ever been used for your image? Are you scared to get close to people because you feel like they're going to use you? Or maybe you start to dim your light because other people benefited from it better than you?
Care to share in the comments below?