There's a difference between dating to have fun and dating for commitment. Whichever side you are on PLEASE make sure you're really on THAT SIDE.
I personally don't condone hookup culture, but I know there are people who are 100% ok with it.
What I also don't condone is women pretending they don't want commitment when they actually do.
Society is promoting hookup culture so much that women who actually want commitment don't feel like it's possible so they put on a fake nonchalant persona that goes against their true desire, commitment.
Let's say you're talking to a guy who calls you every 2 weeks and only comes around for sex.
What the fake nonchalant woman might do is convince herself that this is ok and she's not going to "sweat" him. Then she ends up catching feelings, and gets mad when he doesn't call her everyday or make time for her.
This fake nonchalant persona is actually tolerating behavior she shouldn't and says it's "no big deal," only to find herself making a big deal later and wondering why the guy doesn't text her back or make time for her.
What she doesn't realize is that she's actually tolerating the behavior that's pulling her further away from her desires.
Is she really dating to have fun or is she looking for something serious?
There's a difference between nagging and picking on every single thing and being an empowered woman with standards. Hint: One does less talking and more DOING!
When you are dating to be in a relationship there is a certain way you have to move that requires more discipline.
An empowered woman would just walk away from something that goes against her morals, values, and standards. She's not going to make excuses or "nonchalantly tolerate" something she doesn't want to.
When we go against what we want because everyone else is doing it, we are not being individuals we're being conformers.
My brand HoppIN With hago teaches you how to be an INDIVIDUAL and break cycles that refrain you from doing so.
To not just have desires, but abide by them.
You wouldn't have the desire of commitment if you couldn't obtain it. But when you keep moving in the direction that repels it, you won't get it.
Are you tolerating things from people that go against your true desires? Do you find yourself "nonchalantly tolerating" something you're really not ok with? Are most if not all, your relationships a reflection of this?
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