When I left relationships that weren't serving me the outcome wasn't always the best, but that didn't mean I wasn't supposed to leave.
I cried, had an urge to go back, faced my truth in ways I never thought, detached from patterns that didn't serve me. To be honest, it was exhilaratingly painful.
But let me tell you, the woman I am today as a result of breaking free is WELL WORTH IT!
I learned a very powerful lesson recently. Just because the outcome doesn't turn out the way you hoped, that doesn't mean that you're not supposed to do the thing you KNEW was the right thing to do.
Have you ever been called to do the right thing only to feel like crap in the end?
Maybe you feel like you can't breathe without this specific person, or the thought of being alone makes you feel invisible, or this person has shown you love that your immediate family never has.
The thought of leaving this person may not sound or feel like the best decision. That's one of the reasons why your relationship with them is on and off. You know you should let it go or maybe you already have.
I think what gets in the way of people detaching from toxic relationships is them sensing how challenging letting go may be.
You face your truth in ways you never thought, and that's what I believe scares most people.
I'll give you another example, pursuing your dreams. The outcome of pursuing your dreams may not be the smoothest ride in the world. Before Tyler Perry became who he was today he put together shows that no one really showed up to.
Did that mean he wasn't called to be a filmmaker or playwright?
Imagine if he let those no shows determine his destiny?
Did you just let go of a toxic relationship and feel an urge to go back because of familiarity?
Fear of being alone? The sex? Or because no one has loved you the way they did?
Are you allowing the outcome get in the way of what you know is right for you to do?
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